As with any topic, the adoption option has its share of myths that can misguide us. Let’s shed some light on a few myths.
Myth: “Birth mothers who choose adoption don’t love their child.”
Truth: Birth mothers who choose adoption often make this decision out of love for their child. In fact, caring for the best interest of their child is the second most common reason mothers have for offering a child for adoption. Mothers carefully consider their circumstances and believe that adoption will provide their child with the best possible opportunities for a stable and loving family environment.
Myth: Birth mothers who choose adoption have no say in the adoptive family selection process.
Truth: Birth mothers who offer their children for adoption normally control the adoptive family selection process. Birth mothers review profiles and even meet prospective adoptive families to ensure a good fit for their child.
Myth: Birth mothers who choose adoption have no contact or relationship with their child after placement.
Truth: Normally, the birth mother chooses the amount of contact or relationship she desires with the child. The mother and adoptive parents agree on the extent of contact or relationship.
Myth: The adoption process can be expensive for the mother.
Truth: The adoptive family pays for the pregnancy and birth fees, the adoption agency fees, and often a significant amount of adoption-related expensed. The birth mother is not asked or expected to pay for such costs.
Myth: The birth mother cannot continue her education or job throughout the pregnancy and adoption process.
Truth: Education institutions allow student to have part-time schedules and remain enrolled, or take a leave of absence for many situation. The Family and Medical Leave Act is a Federal law that allows a mother to use twelve weeks of FMLA leave for the birth of a child, for prenatal care and incapacity related to pregnancy, and for her own serious health condition following the birth of a child. In addition, women who register with withyou benefit from hard and soft skill development and limited scholarships, assuming the birth mother continues to make satisfactory progress on her educational goals.
